Tag: Relationship

Valentine’s Day Ideas

For those who haven‘t come up with the idea ion how to surprise your beloved one (probably, that‘s more applicable to women because generally women make this kind of presents) but still want what to give a present for your beloved one for Saint Valentine‘s day I suggest some interesting ideas. A beloved one will definitely be astonished by such an attention!

For those who intend to demonstrate their cooking abilities during the Valentine‘s day I‘m showing how to represent sweet regale in a romantic way.

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Here’s the recipe!

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raspberry muffins

Small presents not requiring a lot of investments and you‘ll remember and be impressed for a long time!

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And when you find or make a present, do not forget to beautifully wrap it or add a card! Another cute idea would be a love jar full of compliments or promises.

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More ideas for this beautiful day: http://www.e-interjeras.lt/idejos-valentino-dienai.html

The Bright Side Of Long Distance Relationships

If given the choice, no one would want to be in a long distance relationship. But life is often not as ideal, and circumstances do force lovers to stay apart. The secret to make it work is to make the most of it.

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I was one of those people who thought it better to split up then to stay in a long distance relationship. What is the point of being with someone when you cannot be together? When you have to wait weeks, sometimes months, to kiss each other? Why, particularly at a young age, would you sacrifice the opportunity to live carefree to be tied down to someone whom you cannot see and touch? But then I changed my mind. In all truthfulness, long distance is not that much harder than a ‘normal’ relationship. And there is no evidence that long distance have a higher percentage of failure than regular relationship. It just needs some work. And not everything about it is bad.

There are different kinds of long distance, not all of them are insurmountable. Sometimes the distance is only of a few hours by car, sometimes a few hours by train. But then when it becomes a few hours by plane, the distance feels heavier and more of an obstacle to seeing each other more or less regularly.

It is of outmost importance to make time for each other. Being in a new place, new social scenes, new schedules, and never mind possible time differences! It is difficult to maintain a sense of intimacy and closeness when so many things change, that’s why communication is key.

Another key factor is honesty. You need to be honest to each other about the kind of commitment you are willing to put it, in terms of when can you visit each other, and how long you think you can last in “abstinence.” Having a clear idea of what you can expect from each other is essential in keeping the relationship healthy.

Once the deal is sealed and clear, you can even try enjoying the bright side of being in a long distance relationship. Sure, there are not many advantages, but here is a few that is good to remind yourself of when feeling nostalgic and lonely:

-          More time for yourself

Without your partner filling your weekends and/or weekdays, there is a lot of time that can be filled with “me” time that was previously unavailable! You are free to join that zumba gym class at 10am on Sunday, if you so wish! You can stay in and read a book and having to pay attention to no one but yourself. And mostly, you can go out with your friends and come home whenever you feel like it, because you only have to worry about your time and not trying to combine it with somebody else’s schedule, too.

-          No need to shave as often

Ok, perhaps you go swimming in your newly acquired free time and it does not make a difference, but for most women in long distance relationships, particularly when the weather gets colder, not having your partner around all the time means you can let it grow!

-          Travel excuse

Though it depends on the kind of long distance relationship you find yourself in, it is very likely that you will always have an excuse to travel to see your partner. Sure, it costs money, but isn’t it nice to save up to know that not only you will get to see your loved one, but you also get to travel to a place you miss?

-          Knowing you are not alone

It’s always a great comfort to know you are not alone, particularly when facing potentially challenging experiences like living in a different country. You can always rely on your partner to be supportive, nice, and sweet whenever you need to feel like someone other than your mother truly loves you and cares about you.

 

 

Guilt-Free Summer Romance

Probably the fact that summer is so short makes us want for more pleasure. Here and now. According to psychologists, summer romances can be beneficial. While dating for a fixed period of time, we boost our self-confidence, get adrenaline, broaden our mindset and please our bodies. Yet is it possible to have a guilt-free summer romance? Is it possible to keep the summer relationship short and sweet – and nothing more than that?

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Ohhh, summer. Hair gets lighter, skin gets darker. Weather gets warmer. Music gets louder. People around get outgoing and friendly. Nights become longer… and we get more adventurous. It is said that people are the most adventurous and tend to be up for a summer romance when they are on holidays in another country. Seems pretty understandable: if you are looking for a discreet romance, you have no intentions for anyone to recognize you.

Summer affair – boost of confidence

According to psychologists, the reason why we keep delighted with our short summer romance is, that we are in a “honeymoon” period, where we tend to idealize the partner we are with. In suh cases, people are usually away from their regular lives, they are relaxed and tend to allow themselves more than they normally would. Due to the warmer weather and the better mood (as well as the small amount of clothes) we tend to observe others more… Besides, there are no co-workers, family members or even friends with them who would judge our behaviour and that is the reason why we tend to ebrace a new relationship quicker. We had a chance to have a discussion with a Danish girl, Anne, 25, (name changed) who has had summer romances for a couple of times while in Sunny Beach, Bulgaria, and Italy.

“I think it’s a great gift to my mind and body to be with someone for a short time”, she says. “I feel free and I just want to flirt a little. Well, I am young and wild, so why not? I know it’s not going to last forever, but that is not what I am looking for”.

By its own definition, summer romances are not meant to last long. It’s like the time with the rushed intimacy and urged desire. “I feel that after the summer, if I had an affair, I am more energized”, says Anne. “I am cheerful and happy and I believe in myself”. Summer flirt can definitely boost your confidence (as long as you are not cheating on anyone!) but can bring a feeling of guilt. If a girl or a woman is single, it helps her to gain self-confidence through her sexuality. And if she has a second half, then this is a question of morality and conscience. The characteristics of a summer affair without commitment is that commitment, however, is – you have to think about the consequences and do your best in order to avoid them. “I always make sure that me and the guy I am with know what we both are doing, that we both are find with it and that we are safe. I don’t want to cheat and I don’t want him to be cheating or expecting something more”.

What about the feeling of guilt?

Psychologists suggest that number one rule in summer affair is being truthful to yourself and your own needs. If you realize your heart has wounds from a previous relationship and you would rather date someone rather than have a short affair, don’t even try that. Realizing what your expectations are will keep you away from feeling guilty and/or hurt. ”A friend of mine was very hurt after her previous boyfriend. She went with me to Bulgaria where we both quickly found two very attractive men. While I just wanted to have fun, she wanted to be appreciated and got hurt afterwards again”, says Anne. “You have to know what you want and need”.

According to psychologists, the feeling of guilt is varying from person to person, yet the most who have had summer affair feel guilty for having done that because they realize they have romantic feelings. Therefore, besides your own expectations, be clear with intentions while being with another person. If you don’t fall in love yourself, it doesn’t mean that your summer partners feels the same way as you do. Make sure you both are on the same page and you know that summer romance is not the beginning to a relationship.

Don’t be too carefree – there are some rules to follow even between the sheets. Maintain the feeling of responsibility, do not forget contraception and clear the things out before it’s too late. “I always make sure that both me and my summer partner are safe. It would be my worst nightmare to get pregnant!”, shares Anne.

As I once read – summers of love are like mini vacations from yourself and the world we all normally live in. There, ladies, enjoy your love holidays and be truthful to your heart and expectations…

“I Chose To Be Alone: No Boyfriend & No Husband, Just Me!”

Our life is very hierarchical. Or, should I rather say, used to be hierarchical. Whereas a family some time ago must’ve consisted of a father and mother, nowadays a substantial number of women choose to be alone. Why do they do so? And, after all, isn’t it our nature to be with someone?

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A different lifestyle

The other day I stumbled upon a forum where a young woman shared that even though she enjoys meeting new people, most of the time she feels that she can see right through them, and such feeling makes her unwilling to know them deeper. It definitely made me wonder since I probably am more or less traditionally raised that there simply has to be “mommy” and “daddy” in the family, who have at least one child. I was brought up thinking that it’s a natural human need, an instinct to want to be with someone else. However, I had a chance to talk to Christa, 34, who works as a manager. She made me think that women sometimes choose to be alone simply because of different lifestyle. ”I am an active woman. I have a well-paid position in one of the worlds most known companies and I tend to travel a lot. I did have a couple of boyfriends but no one managed to be with me due to my lifestyle”, shares Christa. Yet do such women feel the need to be with someone, I wonder? “Sure, I do want to be loved. But that’s about it”, she smiles. “I am too busy to be with someone or, even more, to have a child. My career is my priority number one”, explains she.

The joy of being alone

According to psychologists, enjoying your own company is the first step to happiness. However, when it leads to a life choice of being alone rather in a relationship, the whole situation changes. It is said that we are “constructed” to be with someone and to rely on someone since no one wants to be 100% responsible.

“I love people, but I love to be by myself more”, says Christa. “I know if I had a man he couldn’t accept my lifestyle and spirit of adventure. Currently, I am loving being single. I do not want to go through what I have experienced so far”, says she. “I know I do not depend on anyone and I am not responsible for anyone. It allows me to feel and be free”.

The fear of being committed

Young, gorgeous and clever. It seems impossible to believe, but she is single. And has been single for a long time. And there are many young women like that… Cynthia, a student from Uganda thinks that women who choose to be alone are the ones who feel they’ve attained so much independence, that they wouldn’t need to rely on a partner for anything. “They probably prefer being single because they are much happier that way. It could also be related to bad past experiences or even fear to be committed.” says Cynthia. “I personally would choose to be alone if I am on a path of self discovery. I would prefer being alone so that I can know myself better and also be better for a partner I may want to be with later”, says she.

The more people you meet, the easier you realize how different we are. And so are our preferences and choices. “I think, there will eventually be a guy that falls in love with such a strong and independent woman”, says Denisa, 24. “Even if a woman chooses to repel a guy, it would work only for a moment. I think women are meant to get close to someone.” However, I also understand the situation if woman has been through some unpleasant experiences. Then she will most likely want freedom. However, it would be awesome if a woman could find a man whom she could be free with”, explains she with the smile.

Psychologists claim that one can decline to actively seek relationships, yet no one is able to reject the natural need of love, intimacy and stable relationship. But what are your thoughts on the topic – can a woman be happy when being single – and can a woman be single all her lifetime?

 

Love At First Sight

An immense emotional, psychical and physical attraction, praised by ancient writers and poets, has been a mystery for many generations in a row. All in all, what is love – an incomprehensible power or a romantic, heavenly feeling that can last for eons of time?

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“Love at first sight” is an expression that poets would decribe a sudden romantic attraction for a stranger. In an ancient Greece, love at the first sight was called theia mania, i.e. “madness from the gods”. It was described as an attraction caused by Eros or Cupid. Therefore, the one who suddenly feels in love would be described as the one “who was hit by an arrow”. If the arrow would reach the person, they would then have a “piece” of an arrow in their hearts, overwhelming them with the longing and desire, which back then was called “the sickness of love”. In Ovid’s Metamorphoses Narcissus, an extraordinary handsome man would become madly in love in himself after seeing his looks in a lake.

Another classical example, when talking about the love at the first sight could be heroines of Plato’s Symposium’s, Aristophane’s description that the ancient world back then contained of double creatures, which have now became men and women, and therefore we are missing our second half. “When [a lover] is fortunate enough to meet his other half, they are both so intoxicated with affection, with friendship and with love, that they cannot bear to let each other out of sight for a couple instant”.

It is believed that our evolutionary past wired our brains so that we know shockingly quickly whether we might want to be with the person we are seeing (for the first time!) or not. Yet one question could be asked  - what is it, what we are trying to figure out with such a short time? Scholars speak of the concept of a “lovemap”, a list of traits we want in a partner. If your ex partner, for example, was short and chubby and afterwards you have realized the person you are looking for must be tall and slim, it means you are working on your “lovemap”. Yet such thoughts of mind are said to be more influenced by your revolutionary ancestors rather than your own decisions.

The other day I brought the discussion to two friends of mine – Alexandra and Roberto whom I asked about the love at first sight. ”I do not believe in love at first sight, I believe that it is just attraction in the beginning.”, says Alexandra from Romania. “For me it at least 2 months to discover the person… I know i am in love when I am impatient for a sign from him. “, says she. “And for me, even though I am a guy, I would like to believe in love at first sight. Imagine: you meet her and you understand that she’s your everything even though you don’t even know her name!”, says Roberto from Italy.

In science it’s been said that “love at first sight” is an instant physical attractiveness”. This particular saying could was followed upon in a German dating portal. According to the German dating portal “ElitePartner.de”, which has organized a research about the love at first sight, singles understand whether they will fall in love with another person in the first minute when seeing another person. Only 16% of singles claimed that they would need about 2-3 dates to realize that they could fall in love with this certain person. A little less than 5% of respondents claimed that they would take a little longer than two weeks to realize that. And how long would it take you to fall in love?

4 Benefits Of Being Single

Nowadays, being single is often overlooked and seen as a disadvantage, but there are so many benefits of being single. People would generally think if you are single, you have to be alone and lonely, therefore everyone wants to help you to find your second half. Yet I personally know a lot of successful and happy women who actually enjoy being alone… Prepare to discover the true benefits of being single and why you should start embracing this independence.

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1. Quality time with friends and family

When you are in a relationship, you probably spend nearly all your time with the one you love. It is understandable: you two are totally in love and want to dedicate all your time watching movies, eating together and simply being together. Yet the disadvantage of such situation is the lack of time. In some time you would probably notice your friends complaining that you have become very distant and don’t spend your time with them anymore.

Conclusion: single people can spend more time with their friends and family without being dependent on anyone.

2. Flirting

If you happen to be in a relationship, you would probably restrict yourself from flirting since you don’t want to make your second half jealous. When you are single, every single day is an opportunity to meet or see a potential partner…

Conclusion: single people flirt as much as they like.

3. Focus on goals

When you are single, you can dedicate your whole day to reading a book or jogging outside without anyone interfering or asking you why do you do it. When you are single, you can focus on your goals and dreams without sacrificing since you’re your own boss whereas you would have to adjust your dreams to your second half while in a relationship.

Conclusion: singles can spend more time on something they really enjoy without asking anyone if they agree.

4. No irritating habits

When in a relationship, you can discover that your beloved one has got a number of irritating habits that you literally cannot stand. If you are alone, the only person you have to deal with, is yourself…

Conclusion: no stinky socks, unwashed underwear or dirty dishes. You depend only on yourself!

I hope you now appreciate the freedom you actually have. If you are currently single, there is no need to want to be in a relationship just because your friends are in one. Be the queen/king of your own time and enjoy your time. Discover your true self and do what you actually like and not what you have to. Nevertheless, do not worry, when the right time comes, your special someone will find their way to you. Just don’t be in a rush and don’t think that you have to find one just because everyone else is in a relationship.